Online Dating: After Adding Photos — 13 Comments

    • LOL You are too sweet to apologize (and I believe it’s not the first time) on behalf of your gender.

      Yes, it is my market – men. Seriously, I think there are great guys out there, but I’m not sure if there are many doing the online dating. I think there are more looking for a little fun on the run.

  1. Thanks for sharing the Wordjanitor link (good grief!); heck, I’d always known that any message I’d send on OkCupid -as a fella- would just be as one of many many pebbles thrown into a lake to be sifted through. But “that fake profile” got 150 messages in 24 hours? Wow!

    • I think you mean the link to Alli Reed’s article rather than Wordjanitor. (Wordjanitor is the blog of my friend who sent the link to Alli Reed’s article.) Sorry, I probably didn’t make that as clear as I could’ve.

      I read every single email I get, but skim the BS two-sentence garbage. I read and reply to all the serious, regular-length emails. The two-sentence ones get trashed. They obviously didn’t bother to read my profile, so why bother to reply?

      Alli Reed’s article says to me that it’s all about the photo. Since taking mine offline, I’ve received nothing. This is ok because I’ve been hanging out with some single RVers.

      • Yes, Alli’s article was the one I was referring to. And yes, there are now apps that show pics of singles near you and you can thumbs up/thumbs down them. They are very popular in urban areas. I guess you can’t get more “all about the photo” than that.

        • Since I’m often in rural areas, I wanted to make a pic profile for a squirrel, a catfish, a deer, a skunk – you know, so some singles would actually be nearby when someone used the thing.

  2. Once again I am so sorry to see that there isn’t anyplace that the pigs haven’t overran in the online dating world. It make me count my blessings that my wife and I stayed together during the times that divorce became a real possibility. As your friend (after sharing so much of your life every week in you blog I truly worry about you) I implore you to at least do an online background check on anyone you meet in person. I have taken time to look on some of the dating sites for country folks, Christians and even older singles. What I found was that at least half are married or have some other attachment. Many have problems that they lie about that would scare off Norman Bates . I also see that the largest share by far are Pigly men looking for innocent victims. Please be careful it is a Jungle out there! The one thing that I would suggest is not to count out men you feel may be too young. From your photos I guessed you were around the same age as my thirty year old daughter. From what you write I am guessing you are a few years older? I was 22 years old when I married my 28 year old wife. Never has our age been a issue during the past thirty one plus years. Of course she is very forgiving and only becomes more beautiful each year. You deserve the best and never forget it!!!

    • Thank you, Trey! 🙂 I appreciate the kind words!

      I’m a bit shocked that there are so many of the creeps online. It seems like there are less in real life, but maybe they’re just more bold behind the computer. (That must be true, because I’m sure these same men sending me half-naked photos don’t go around passing them out to strangers on the street.) Yeah, I hear you on the background check and serious hidden issues. This whole thing is making me consider joining the convent. Too bad I’m not religious.

      Oh, you are so sweet to think I’m around 30! I will confess only to having anniversaries (plural) of my 29th birthday, but yes, I am older. My main blog photo is airbrushed, but the profile ones I posted are all recent. I probably look closer to my age in person because someone guessed it the other day – for the first time in many, many years. *sigh*

      I’m not opposed to dating younger. I did date someone a few years younger than me last year. We’re just in different places in our life. I’ve cultivated a lifestyle of freedom that most people don’t adopt until they retire.

  3. Years later I’ll NEVER forget the guy who asked if I like to torture and kill bugs — because he liked to watch. Wha? Huh? There are no words.

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