Tales From the RV Park: Holy Haters Batman!
I’m not going to bother with the usual disclaimer on this one because this is a rant. It’s also not directly related to the RV park, which has a whole host of weirdness all its own, but is instead a rant about my general experience with the nearby towns. There will be cuss words.
If you are new to this blog, you should probably skip this post for a better one. Any other one. This post isn’t my best first impression. Just saying. I don’t know when I began caring about first impressions. Humh, that’s new. Carry on.
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I am ready to leave Deerville, Soberville, and Touristburg. I’m over it, for a couple reasons.
I’ve been teaching a free meditation class in one of the neighboring towns. I’ve done this before. I don’t get paid for it, it’s something I like to do to better my little corner of the world. It’s also fun for me, gives me a chance to meditate with a group, and best of all to hopefully encourage people to meditate daily. I teach different approaches to meditation, ways to easily increase your practice, and share what it’s done for me.
Daily meditation has change my life in ways that were previously unimaginable to me: a sense of inner peace, mental clarity, better health, and the ability to monitor my thoughts – and to choose better ones, etc. Of course I want to share this with people, so I started teaching meditation to others. I have done this for a several years, and it has always been a fun experience.
But then some haters came. Now I don’t want to share it with them anymore.
Several older folks with hearing loss came to the first meditation class. I understand hearing loss – I have about 40% hearing in one ear after an ear infection about fifteen years ago. I have trouble hearing in places that have background noise, such as noisy restaurants. So I get it. But I also consider this my problem, and do what I can to change what I can, such as sitting closer to the person with whom I’m talking, and putting them on the side with my better-hearing ear.
What I don’t do is bitch about it. Over and over. And over. During a meditation class. A class in which the instructor has accommodatingly changed out three MICROPHONES on which she is using to speak. A class in which the folks in the fourth row back can hear her just fine – without a mic. A class in which the hard hearing students refuse to sit in the front row, near the teacher – and the audio speakers. WTF?
It wasn’t just one, there were about five vocal, hard-of-hearing, but I-wont-sit-in-the-front elderly students, all from the church in which the meditation was held. The rest of the folks who came from other places were all very nice, polite, and didn’t have a problem. Those who came from places other than the church and don’t hear well, sat in the front, for fuck’s sake.
Holy Haters Batman!
I have never met a more unhappy, unfriendly concentration of people since Los Angeles. But even the folks in L.A. like to meditate without bitching. In all my years of doing this, I have never encountered such a large proportion of self-centered malcontents.
One of my neighbors watched me interact with someone the other day. When I came back over to him he said, ‘You never meet any strangers, do you?’
At first I was caught off guard by his observation, but then I realized it’s true, for the most part. It is usually fairly easy for me to make friends. However, if someone start outs being rude or a hater, I shut off to getting to know anything more about them, can’t wait to get out of there.
Just say No to the negativity.
In Deerville, Soberville, and Touristburg people tend to be “cliquish.” They stick extremely tightly to their socioeconomic group. Heavily tattooed twenty-somethings are never seen talking to people with expensive jewelry. Even the new RV park, a place where I usually make close friends, is very cliquish, with no social interaction or chatty people. No neighbors who meet and hang out by the campfire/BBQ pit/lodge/walking trail. I miss the parks in Pizzaville and Cow-Chicken-Oil Town. People talked to each other, they hung out, they made meals together.
Sadly, the meditation class is a slice of the negativity I’ve encountered in the local towns over the last few weeks. In testing out a potential sales job, I had the opportunity to meet many of the local business owners. Did I mention I have never ever met more rude concentration of people! especially in Texas. Several were shockingly rude – in the Texas country, of all places. Generally speaking, Texans are some of the nicest folks I’ve ever met. But Fuck Me Freddy, too many of the people around here are unhappy, standoffish, and rude.
Now I can’t wait to get out of here.
Closing disclaimer – not all of the people around here are like that. There are many nice, Texas-style folks. But the concentration of haters is way too high for this planet, let alone Texas.
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Over the last few weeks I found the negativity and lack of friendliness was sucking me in, and affecting my mood. To get out of that head space, this past weekend I took off to see friends in Bastrop, the town that proudly displays the smiley face water towers, and giant painted boots. Where else would one go to find happy, nice people but a town with smiley face water towers, of course.
I love Bastrop. It has some of the nicest, happiest folks – as would any place that puts smiley faces on its water towers. Remember that next time you choose a spot in which to camp. Smiley face water towers are a good sign. (hahaha- pun not intended, but totally cool!)
I leave you with that. Thank you for listening to my rant. A real post will follow shortly.
It has been my experience over the last 44 years when you come across those kind of people, THEY ARE NOT BORN TEXANS, they immigrated to TEXAS. just sayin my experience’s.
That’s an excellent point, Joe. I’m not sure where all came from, but I do know that a few of them are NOT born Texans. Thanks for the insight! But even so, you’d think SOME Texas love would’ve rubbed off on them by now. It certainly did for me to the extent that I now notice the apathetic or passive-aggressive customer service reps and sales people – and they remind me of experiences in California. LOL
Hope things start looking UP! Chin up, keep on keepin on!
Mag
Thanks, Magee. I’m feeling much better after getting away for a few days, and focusing on the good things that are in my life, and those that are coming.
That is why buying good tires and maps is so important.
Very true, Mike, very true.
Knowing you as I do, those must have been some really SICK people. And it sounds like their sickness is contagious. Good for you in catching what was going on. Gee, and some were church folk, eh? I was just talking to some people about those whose behavior is diametrically opposed to such things as their ‘piety’. If they profess to be church folk, what has happened to their spiritual love and tolerance. Again, these are sick people, sick in their spirits. Go find some of our people, Sweetie.
Dennis
Hi Dennis!
The five who complained above and beyond were ALL from the church! I had expected – and planned for – disruption from some program newcomers. The newcomers were among the best behaved!! Never could I have imagined the worst of the worst would be two little old ladies! One was so bad had she come back I was ready to ask her to leave if she disrupted the class again. Thankfully, she did not return.
That’s so funny, I just had a similar conversation with a neighbor about some “Holier Than Thou” behavior we’ve witnessed at the park: A bible thumper who thinks nothing of lying, not paying bills, going back on their word or contract.
The reason for going to Bastrop was to find some of our people, a very friendly, welcoming group to a degree I haven’t seen since the Bay Area “our people”.
Love and miss you!
Just like positive thoughts bring positive outcomes, negative thoughts bring negative ones. These older folks have apparently lived a full lifetime of negativity and are showing the affects. When faced with negativity, it is human nature to react in the same way. It feeds on itself. It’s recursive and destructive.
You should have compassion for them and pity for the lives that they must lead when outside your view. Sure, they pissed you off, but don’t let them drag you into their spiral of negativity.
Hopefully your rant cleared you and you can let it go. I also know that it is easier to talk about than do…
Of course I have compassion, but this post was a rant. I hadn’t planned on writing about it, but when I was recounting the story to someone a couple weeks ago, he was laughing out loud, and (not even aware of this blog) said I should write about this. So we have John A. to thank for this bit of humor.
Nah, the rant wasn’t a way to clear myself. Going to Bastrop for the weekend and hanging out with good people was what did it, as I expected it would. The purpose of the rant, if there was one, was to give you all a good laugh while showing how I got myself out of that head space.
I’m guessing those people migrated from Maryland.
LOL, Bluz! You’re too nice to be there! PA is full of good people, some of whom are transplants. Do you ever think of going back?
I thought of you when I heard some recent news stories. As much as I wanted to, I don’t think I’ll be visiting the cool courthouse in Baltimore. Besides, I think they’re going to be busy for a while.
But you should really get an RV and get out of there… come to Texas! Most folks here are super nice.
Yep, you probably ran into some imports. Can’t believe they didn’t cotton to a friendly sweetie such as yourself. Guess the folks at the Church of Saint Rude just couldn’t keep their monkey minds on a peaceful trail. Meditation is tedious to some, I guess.
Hi Jo!
The funny thing is one of the big complainers ‘trained in India for years and is a daily meditator,’ – her words. Yikes! She kept trying to take over the class, too. At the final session, I almost said to her she should go to the reverend and ask to do a class of her own. The other very vocal one couldn’t figure on anything but her problems.
It was interesting to see how these two couldn’t do the one thing that I asked of all students at the beginning of each class: Come with a beginner’s mind.
Sorry you have had a negative experience. I know the area. They are primarily transplants from large cities (like Houston). So they are not your typically born-n-raised small-town Texas folk. Just a bunch of big fish in a small pond. It was pretty there, but I don’t miss it – at all. Except for Touristburg, which is quite ‘in-bred’. If your parents weren’t born there, then you’re an outsider.
Thanks, Terri. I forgot you lived here! I’m not finding the fellowship here that there is in Bastrop. There are a few friendly folks, but so many fewer than most every other place I’ve been in Texas. Yes, it is pretty here, but I think it’s much prettier where you are!
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