It’s time to light a match – it’s starting to stink on Match.com.
This is part four (I think, but I’m starting to lose count) of my Match.com Adventures. Part three is Match.com: The Odds Are Good That The Goods Are Odd.
Here are the latest two guys from Match.com:
Chatty Guy, is in high tech, has four kids, and likes to dominate the conversation. We had a first date, lunch at a local chain restaurant. There are no big pluses in his court, but he does have a few minuses: He bashed his ex on our two dates, he talks over me all. the. time., and he lied about his age (said 49, but is 52).
Normally, lying about age is grounds for immediate disqualification in my book, but I’ve since began to wonder if perhaps I’m still single at my ripe old age because I might be a tad too picky. With this in mind I polled my friends and readers on Facebook and here’s what they said:
Chatty/Lied About His Age Guy and I have since had a second date, dinner. During it I realized I’m just not that interested anymore: The lying doesn’t help to give me the warm and fuzzy, and our conversations are boring. On each of our two dates he’s talked about his last ex – about whom he has nothing kind to say, even though she’s obviously got mental problems. No compassion for her at all. Heck, I have more compassion for her than he seems to, and I don’t know her. Two of his four kids are with her.
Plus, even though he talked about also “wanting to be friends first” and how refreshing that was, he’s already trying to move along the physical aspect on date two! He tried twice to kiss me – even though I’d clearly given him the turned cheek the first time.
He’s out. NEXT!
Greek Guy, aka Shoe Fetish Guy, and I have had two dates since our initial coffee date. During our first date, coffee and walking around an outdoor mall, he mentioned how much he liked my shoes, generic black boots under jeans. During our second phone call, he again mentioned how much he liked them, and how he had a thing for shoes. He made a request that the next time we go out I wear some sexy shoes.
I wore sneakers during our second date, lunch and walking around by the beach. As a commenter said “…the shoe fetish version of Granny Panties…” I LOVE my commenters!
My friends and readers were also very helpful with Shoe Fetish Guy, and funnier than I could be…
He’s out, too. Not just for his weirdness with the shoes, but his interest in speeding things along physically – nothing is a bigger turn-off for me. I get that. all. the. time.
One of the things I love about my Friend On The Fence (mentioned in A Pigeon Named Spot) is that he tells me he loves me all the time, he tells me I’m smart, and he tells me I’m beautiful inside and out. He sees a person underneath the blond hair and skin. Those are more of a compliment then “You’re so pretty”. These guys on Match mostly seem interested in one thing: My photos, or my shoes.
*sigh* This leaves me with no current Match.com prospects.
Now, I’ll have to start contacting them first. Some feel this is the kiss of death for a budding relationship, and the man should always initiate contact/declare interest first.
I love all the input I get from you guys! I want your opinion on this next question, too: Is it ok for a woman to contact a man first, or does that start the potential relationship off on the wrong foot – ie, she’s doing the chasing?
Men – What do you think of a woman who indicates she’s interested by contacting you first? She’s easy and desperate or just bold? Does this change the way you feel about her or treat her in the relationship, should it get that far?
UPDATED: Lied About His Age Guy has updated his profile. During our dinner date I told him how you all voted 30 to 1 to against his behavior, and considered him untrustworthy because of it. Apparently, he does have a conscience. Maybe.